Regardless of influence, status, title or years in life, we all know people who when we first meet them or are in their presence, we feel this energy – something you really can’t describe in words – but a knowing that there is something about them that you just want more of. A drawing in.

Here are a few traits I’ve found common in these individuals:

Confidence

These people typically exude an extremely high confidence factor.  They hold their bodies with their shoulders back, their head held high, a positive look on their face, and will look you in the eye, say hello, and be open to what life has to offer.

These are people who admit when they messed up, are people who are humble, are definitely not ‘know-it-alls’ but add value to a conversation, and who answer questions with a sense of assuredness in their delivery. It’s not an arrogance, but a knowing of themselves from the inside out.

Confidence, really, is the new sexy.

Engaged in Life

To be memorable, you need to be interested and engaged in life. Being interested in life will make you interesting. Being interesting, having curiosity, asking questions, learning new things, will spark energy, conversation, and knowing which will draw others to you.

And for the life of Pete, can we stop labeling ourselves. Labels are so last year. Truly. If you are a person that is engaged in this thing called life, you are certainly more than ‘a mom’ ‘a student’ ‘a nurse.’ If all you did was describe yourself by a label, you are really undermining your worth as a human being.

Ask yourself, ‘If I removed the labels in my life, who exactly am I? What feeds my soul and life?”

That’s who you are. You are spirit, you are an inner being and that’s what should drive your daily habits, behavior, and actions. That is what the people above all have. And being multi-dimensional drives the interesting needle up the curve.

Generosity

When you are generous, you are a person that radiates energy. But this isn’t just monetarily, although that is certainly wonderful. I’m speaking about ideas, time, and positive emotions (by the way emotions are energy in motion – e=energy + motion). By delivering those repeatedly every day, people want to be part of that. Generous people are the first to help, serve, mentor, and give. Giving generously of your ideas, time, and positive emotions is like the most perfect juicy summer peach, and people will remember you.

Maya Angelou said it best:

People will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.

The next time you meet someone with that energetic force, evaluate. Are they confident, interesting, and generous?